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You had a party and didn't invite me????

  • You know when you send a invite to friends via Facebook? There are always those few who don't check (or don't claim to check...since they get all the other invites...but we'll ignore that for now), and I always feel bad that I don't check up on them, to confirm their attendance. To be fair, I don't know that people don't check the invites. In addition, there are those people you invite, who check the invites, but just refuse to tell you that they're coming, because they just don't want to attend. That's fine, but you can't expect me to check up on you if you're one of those people. I really like it when people come over, even if it's just to chill and watch movies. Sometimes, I throw big parties, because I like having all of my friends together at one time. I totally understand if that's not your thing, but don't accuse me of not inviting you, or checking up, when normally, you just ignore the invites.

  • There are people who I know don't check their Facebook invites, because they've told me so. Those people, I follow up with, because I know they like coming over. The ones that don't seem to care, I stop trying. I mean, if you constantly "forget" to respond to messages, or just act like you don't want to be friends, I will get the hint. Eventually, I won't bother. I don't want to burden you with my friendship, God forbid! Besides, there are plenty of people who enjoy hanging out with me, think I'm a lot of fun, and love my parties; why should I waste my time with people who couldn't care less?

  • Anyway, I just wanted to rant. I'm not really upset with anyone in particular. I was feeling bad about not checking up with people (especially those I hoped would attend), but I realized, sometimes, people don't want to attend, or just don't want to be my friend. It's fine I can't get everyone to like me anyway. Plus, alhamdulillah, I know the people that care, so I've started to focus more on them, and stop trying with those who can't be bothered. I don't have the time, or the energy for that anymore.

  • "Be yourself, and put yourself out there. If someone doesn't like who you are, then they aren't worth it." -paraphrased from a friend of mine.

There are some days where I don't think I'm good enough.

  • Today is one of those days. That I'm not good enough, or more importantly, never going to make my parents proud. Alhamdulillah, they've done so much for me, but I don't think I'm ever going to be able to repay them, or make them proud of me.

  • I try, but there are days where I fail. I will always keep trying, and I suppose that's what counts. Still, there are still days where I just don't think I'm good enough.

  • Oh well, tomorrow's another day, inshallah.

It’s why I shouldn’t feel bad when someone doesn’t bother to give me the time of day. You don’t want to get to know me better? It’s okay, there are others who like me just as I am, so it’s your loss.



Gloria Steinem and Dorothy Pitman-Hughes, 1972 and 2014

Both by Dan Bagan

Wanna see my cry like a baby? Ask me who these women were.

Hughes’ father was beaten nearly to death by the KKK when she was a kid, and what does she do? Become an activist to try and stop that from happening to other people. She raised money to bail civil rights protesters out of jail. She helped women get out of abusive situations by providing shelter for them until they got on their feet. She founded an agency that helped women get to work without having to leave their children alone, because childcare in the 1970s? Not really a thing. In fact, a famous feminist line in the 70s was “every housewife is one man away from welfare.”

Then she teamed up with Steinman to found the Women’s Action Alliance, which created the first battered women’s shelters in history. They attacked women’s rights issues through boots on the ground activism, problem solving, and communication. They stomped over barriers of race and class to meet women where they were: mostly mothers who wanted better for themselves and their children.

These are women are who I always wanted to be.

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